I find it highly ironic that the word used to describe the dissolution of a relationship is breakUP, not break DOWN. Because often, that’s what happens.
You experience a plethora of feelings. Loneliness. Regret. Guilt. Depression. Anger. Grief. Confusion. Shock. Vulnerability. Paralysis.
It’s a deadly cocktail that causes you to feel like you’re losing control, if you haven’t already, and you don’t know what to do to feel better.
I’m going to paint a picture for you that’s helped countless people. And I think it will help you too.
The book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying has been around for a while, but I only started reading it recently, which is surprising considering how close the theme of the book is to my heart and my Life Purpose.
Is it any good?
I not only couldn’t put it down, I recommend it highly to anyone as one of the most life-changing books you will ever read.
Many years ago, I had a friend who was nice, devoted, beautiful… and in a bad, abusive relationship. Shouted at, verbally abused, hit, slapped… and still she hung on. Every time he would apologize, cry, buy flowers, and each time, she would take him back. Nothing anyone of us could do or say made a bit of difference. I lost track of her for a few years, when I saw her again, I was surprised to learn they were no longer together. Naturally I asked her what happened? Her reply?
“He broke my jaw.”
I want to talk about something that is a hard topic to write about, and maybe for some of you, read, but it has to be said because I see so many good people in bad relationships and it’s sad and painful.
When do you let go of someone in a relationship?
It’s that time of year again, and I wanted to drop a short note going into 2019, to share an important lesson, and also what I aim to do with AA35.
It’s been a crazy year for me. A lot happened personally, I’ve experienced loss in a few areas of my Life. Family, work, health… and it’s not been easy, as evinced by my completely sporadic posts.
Last year there were a few things I wanted to do, going “Back to Basics” One of them was being more open with AA35 and reaching a wider audience. The way I chose to do this was a two-pronged approach. This blog, as well as YouTube. Well, going into 2019 I’ll fess up outright that I didn’t keep up on both and there’s egg on my face.
This leads to a couple points of this post.