Becoming a giving person can be a tough process if you’ve never done it before. In fact it’s like starting an exercise program. If you haven’t exercised for years, you feel weak, get breathless easily, and ache the next day. But as you persist, you begin to see results. Small results at first, but they give you just that little boost to keep going. Each new success motivates you to do more. Eventually, it becomes such a natural part of your Life like eating and showering, that you no longer notice it every time you do it.
But just as injury or illness can derail your exercise programme, your efforts to make contributing part of your Life can hit a roadblock if you have experiences that drain you or turn you off.
So, just as we try to minimize injury potential, we should recognize potential leeches on your quest to contribution, and eliminate them swiftly and surely. In particular I want to talk about two things you should do to minimize potential unhappiness that can really affect your mood and motivation in this area.
In part 1, we introduced the concept of giving. We considered reasons giving adds to our own Lives, rather than taking away from it. In adopting the mindset of a giver, instead of just taking all the time, we really create a fuller Life because living it benefits good people around us.
In a world where it can like every person for themselves, this might be a foreign idea. Not all takers are bad people; it may just be how they’ve chosen to survive and protect themselves from hurt. So beginning in a safe and non-threatening manner can be tricky.
In part 2, we’ll look at the practical aspects to contributing and giving. I’ll take you through the same simple 3 step plan I walk clients through, people who want to add this very enriching and (spiritually and emotionally) rewarding aspect to their Lives.
Have you ever cared about anybody other than yourself?
Have you ever done something good without thought of reward?
Have you ever wondered: what am I doing to make this world a better place?
You see, you can accomplish many things, earn lots of money, buy whatever you want, or achieve individual success and glory. Some people could indeed live that Life and enjoy it completely.
For many people, it becomes stale and boring after a while.
If you haven’t used any of that success to better any Lives except your own, then I believe you’re really missing out on one of the aspects that make up a Full Life – giving to others. If you’re not a natural giver, it may be time to consider why you might want to be.