Mid-life crisis! Menopause! Aches and pains! Hit songs of your youth now oldies!
And…ooops, maybe the makings of a paunch.
These are just some of the frightening things people associate with being 40.
When I started the AA35 blog, I wrote why 35 is a big deal. It’s the age you realise you’re nearer 40 than 20, but when you see “40”, your mind actually thinks… “50”! That puts one in an ‘old’ frame of mind, with all the worries that entails!
Well guess what? I crossed 40 for a while back, kissing 50 territory… for real! And I want to give you some perspectives that might help you embrace this incredible milestone!
Have you heard of SMART goals? Chances are most people have. In fact, I explained how to do this briefly in an earlier article. For the most part it’s a good start and I still take clients through it if they want to learn the system.
In recent years, however, I’ve moved away from the SMART goals system, or indeed many other strategies, and taught people a different approach.
Because in most cases, the way we set goals is plain ineffective.
Imagine you have been working 12 hour days preparing for a major audit. On the fourth day, you are about to leave for home at 10pm when you get an urgent phone call from the boss. Due to unforeseen circumstances, you will be the one flying to Germany to meet a major partner threatening to pull out of a joint venture, not your colleague as planned.
Which of these two things would be more likely to cross your mind?
- My exercise plan is going to be affected! What can I do or plan to make sure I still get some cardio/ strength training/ stretching in the next two weeks?
- I’d better delegate the audit prep to the right people. I’m going to devote all my available time to preparing for the overseas meeting. Exercise plan? What exercise plan – oh yes I forgot exercise is a part of my life now. Well, that’s going to have to wait till I sort all this out.
If you’re like most people, exercise is a “nice-to-have” option, the first thing that goes out the window when your time gets crunched.
But if you give up your exercise because of ‘emergencies’, you may eventually be headed for another sort of emergency of your own.
To prevent that happening, follow two guiding principles that will keep you living a healthy lifestyle, and you from lapsing back into inactivity and no exercise.
When I went through my divorce, it was one of the hardest periods of my Life ever.
Few things could have prepared me for the stresses of divorce. You kinda expect a few things, but nothing quite prepares you for the simultaneous assault on so many fronts. Acrimonious exchanges, lawyers meetings, villainization by spectators who know nothing, bleeding finances. they hit me like a successive tons of bricks. In my case, I also had to constantly move, never with a secure roof over my head, all on top of having to work a full time job while building my business.
If anything could have given me the perfect excuse to stop exercising and start commiserating over tubs of Häagen-Dazs, this would have been it.
But you know what?
As a wise man once said: “Shit happens.”